Are our dreams a luxury

Are we plagued with Success Stories?

It is a question that pops in my head every now and then.  We grew up watching Disney, To adults telling us that if you can dream it you can do it, If you are not doing it then you don’t want it bad enough.

How true is this?

When it comes to dreams, the one thing I have learnt is that no one is going to take your hand and help you, it’s the lonest process ever, battling it out with yourself and by yourself. 

But what if, to some of us our dreams are a luxury that we can’t afford.

When we are younger, Our dreams seem to be infinite, there is nothing that we feel we cant achieve.

Then we grow up, and everything seems to be as if we are chasing butterflies.

Dreams take time and money.

And if you are a part of the real world, a world where you have to get up to a  8 to 10 hour job a day to put food on the table, there is just no room for sacrificing, (I am not saying that my situation is as extreme as my sentence)

When you are this unhappy, you seek for things within your power, to make yourself feel happy so that you can wake up the next day and work all over again.

But you will always cry about the dreams you can’t give up.

Because you know deep down, inside that this is not what you are meant to do,  deep down inside you know you should be setting time aside to go out and achieve your dreams, instead of doing everything in your power to stop yourself from going crazy or worst trying to kill yourself.

You begin to hate yourself; however that hate gets worst when you realize that you have wasted so much time surviving that you have not developed any talent for your dreams at all.

You need to live, eat, breath and sleep your dreams, however you have no talent.

And everyone pours their infinite wisdom into you and confirms everything you already know, it’s because you don’t want it bad enough that is hasn’t happened.

But now you have nothing to sacrifice, and you don’t get them because you are so talentless & you don’t want them bad enough.

You can’t be the next Walt Disney, you don’t make the cut, you aren’t good enough, you can’t make up your mind, you are not committed.

By now I am sure you have spent so much time, helping everyone out without wanting recognition for it, in fact I believe you have been told several times who asked you to?  And now you realize everything you invested time in, never wanted you to invest time in it in the first place, you hate yourself even more.

You have no time, money or talent.

And you are stuck with the idea, of dreams being a luxury you can’t afford, because you don’t have the power to get up and do them.

What are you going to do now?

Questions about dreaming chasing

“Nana...how come being happy and making your dreams come true are two different things? Even now, I still don't know why...” ― Ai Yazawa



Lets talk about dreams, and I am not talking about the ones you have when your safely tucked away in bed, sleeping away life.
No I am talking about the ones you yearn for or better yet the ones you ache for, the ones you lose sleep over.
I was always under the impression that if you achieve your dreams you will achieve happiness, but I have come to see that it may not be the case all the time.

Essentially we are already happy and content, even if we are to debate whether we are really truly happy or not, without achieving those said dreams, I think that we can come to the conclusion that because we are happy and content right now, we don’t have the urge to go chase our dreams, and that is maybe why, sadly not everyone’s dreams get realized.
What I mean to say is, how many times have we come accross a person that said "Well I would like so and so, but if it doesnt happen I am alright with that" or seen a person that clearly has a vision yet isnt doing anything to achieve it.

In my opinion I think that they are like that not because of fear, or anything negative, but because they just have too much positive things going on for them that it doesnt make sense to chase their dreams.

You see chasing dreams, its not a simple easy process, it involves a lot of work, a lot of set backs and disappointments, a lot of dedication and persistence, and an insanely huge amount of faith you have in yourself and in the universe, but the end result is rewarding.
That is exactly why we admire those who set out and chaise their dreams, it is also why we get inspired by them, and this is also why people give up on their dreams as well.
So here is what I am trying to ask , Is your current happiness and comfort in life worth more than that of what your dreams could provide you? Can you been happy and have life’s comfort while chasing your dreams? and is it Ok not to achieve your dreams?

Thinking out loud again.

Growing up, the hardest choices I had to make were , what crayon I want to color with? what to have for breakfast or what am I going to do for the weekend? (Mind you, I still have trouble deciding what I will be doing for the weekend). Life back then made a lot of sense. Everything felt so right. There was nothing we (or Shall I say I) could do wrong. There was no wrong choice.

I don’t know, It’s not like I am lost, sad or anything like that, I am just wondering what happened to my freedom of choice, Actually no! I am wondering when I stopped fighting for it. I watch many people around me give up! For them it’s the finish line, I hear them thinking, “If this is what society/family/friends me to do, I shall do it” and I see them just give in. I wonder if they have any ambitions or dreams, or how much I am willing to give up to make others happy.

I think about my own dreams, they sure as hell will disappoint mum and dad, and I am wondering how much should I really care. Should I honor them by becoming a mindless zombie (which also somehow will upset them as well), Or should I go for it, Leap up to the sky without ever looking down and hope to god that eventually they will understand.

This is me, This is now, and unfortunately like others I have managed to lock myself up in a box filled up with full of secrets. But not for long, Because I want to always and forever see the good things in life! Ps- If your wondering what inspired my above chain of thoughts read below.

It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living.
I WANT TO KNOW WHAT YOU ACHE FOR, AND IF YOU DARE TO DREAM OF MEETING YOUR HEART’S LONGING.

It doesn’t interest me how old you are.
I WANT TO KNOW IF YOU WILL RISK LOOKING LIKE A FOOL FOR LOVE, FOR YOUR DREAM, FOR THE ADVENTURE OF BEING ALIVE.

It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon.
I WANT TO KNOW IF YOU HAVE TOUCHED THE CENTRE OF YOUR OWN SORROW, IF YOU HAVE BEEN OPENED BY LIFE’S BETRAYALS, OR HAVE BECOME SHRIVELLED AND CLOSED FROM FEAR OF FURTHER PAIN.

I WANT TO KNOW IF YOU CAN SIT WITH PAIN - MINE OR YOUR OWN - WITHOUT MOVING TO HIDE IT, OR FADE IT, OR FIX IT.

I WANT TO KNOW IF YOU CAN BE WITH JOY - MINE OR YOUR OWN; IF YOU CAN DANCE WITH WILDNESS, AND LET THE ECSTASY FILL YOU TO THE TIPS OF YOUR FINGERS AND TOES, WITHOUT CAUTIONING US TO BE CAREFUL, BE REALISTIC, TO REMEMBER THE LIMITATIONS OF BEING HUMAN.

It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true.
I WANT TO KNOW IF YOU CAN DISAPPOINT ANOTHER TO BE TRUE TO YOURSELF: IF YOU CAN BEAR THE ACCUSATION OF BETRAYAL AND NOT BETRAY YOUR OWN SOUL: IF YOU CAN BE FAITHLESS AND THEREFORE TRUSTWORTHY.

I WANT TO KNOW IF YOU CAN SEE BEAUTY, EVEN WHEN IT IS NOT PRETTY EVERY DAY, AND IF YOU CAN SOURCE YOUR LIFE FROM ITS’ PRESENCE. I WANT TO KNOW IF YOU CAN LIVE WITH FAILURE, YOURS AND MINE, AND STILL STAND ON THE EDGE OF THE LAKE AND SHOUT TO THE SILVER OF THE FULL MOON, “YES!”

It doesn’t interest me to know where you live, or how much money you have.
I WANT TO KNOW IF YOU CAN GET UP AFTER THE NIGHT OF GRIEF AND DESPAIR, WEARY AND BRUISED TO THE BONE, AND DO WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE TO FEED THE CHILDREN.

It doesn’t interest me what you know, or why you came here.
I WANT TO KNOW IF YOU WILL STAND IN THE CENTRE OF THE FIRE WITH ME, AND NOT SHRINK BACK.

It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied.
I WANT TO KNOW WHAT SUSTAINS YOU FROM THE INSIDE, WHEN ALL ELSE FALLS AWAY. I WANT TO KNOW IF YOU CAN BE ALONE WITH YOURSELF, AND IF YOU TRULY LIKE THE COMPANY YOU KEEP IN THE EMPTY MOMENTS.

The Invitation – Oriah, Mountain Dreamer